After being married 19 years & dating many women in South America after my divorce, one thing I realized is that MOST MEN PAY ONE WAY OR ANOTHER, when it comes to relationships. It also taught me that there is no perfect relationship or marriage model. They all suck. But I do think some are “less terrible” than others. I will come back to this later.

One day as I set in a rooftop pool in Medellín working on my Remote Biz Income website, sipping a spicy mango cocktail and reading a book called, ‘The Obstacle IS The Way’, I began to realize that most women treated traditional marriage or live in situations, all romance & butterflies in the beginning…until she wanted out, then they suddenly make it all about “biz” in terms of what she gets out of the marriage or relationship. So, it hit me like a ton of bricks: if women can be “all Biz” about relationships in the end (and there is always an end), why can’t us men be “All Biz” about our relationships from the VERY BEGINNING?!

This is when it dawned on me the harsh reality and hard to swallow pill – most marriages and relationships are essentially Sugar Daddy relationships but with makeup slapped on the pig per se, to make it seem more romantic and sweet and “normal”. Being a provider male is still “paying for sex”, its just that we call it marriage so it feels more legit.

I mean, how many times do you hear men say comments like: “never pay for sex”, as if that took some kind of deep thought or analysis to conger up. They are simply repeating what the guy before them said and are part of the sheep group think too. Once you add other things to what YOU get in return, in addition to the sex, those guys typically blow a fuse or call it “spin”. Yet them paying for a woman’s steak dinner and 3 cocktails (in hope of sex or intimacy) is “not spin” and “not paying women for sex” according to them =).

After many years of trying many different relationship models, I had begun to realize that I had picked up on a Blind Spot that exists in between the Sugar Daddy philosophy and the Sigma male frame philosophy, noticing that each were very extreme polar opposites of each but had parts of each other that were somewhat impractical for most men to do. Essentially, I had created a “hack” of sorts that most men totally miss because most men are very black or white on relationships. Most men are one extreme or the other. We also tend to be man shamed that leading with money, equals simp or betamale. Anyways, after many months structuring my RMS, I finally decided to name it The Sugar, Salt & Pepper Daddy Relationship Management System for Dating or Marriage.

This RMS was NOT made for the 3% man (Chad’s & Tyrone’s) nor is it made to teach the Beta’s how to be one of those guys either! Don’t get me wrong: I still recommend you learn those Alpha Male training pickup game courses. More knowledge can rarely hurt you. However, the shift I am recommending you making, is to use the Alpha game stuff to learn to be more Stoic DURING THE RELATIONSHIP more so, not so much in using it to attract the women. Basically, reversing how it is typically done! When you learn to LEAD with MONEY (sounds crazy I know) and how to lead with it being more like a contractual relationship approach and to de-romantize it, you don’t have to lean so much on “mastering smooth talk” or “learning what not to say to women” or “learning the 100 rules of what not to do on a first date” lol. Its strictly biz babe.

I let women know that I am horrible at flirting and pick lines so if that is what they are turned on by, I am not the man for her. I also tell them I suck at romance and texting so I prefer relationships to be setup more like a business so both parties know what they are getting and what to expect. I basically give the Chads credit and admit, I am no Chad and I do not have 6 pack abs or smooth talking skills but what I do have, is savvy biz skills, so that is what I prefer to use while dating or marriage.

If you think about it, it is a little similar to how Christian Grey did it in the movie ’50 Shades of Grey’, except he evetually lets her turn him into a typical monogamous Betamale, which I do not recommend letting happen. This is where those Alpha male courses can help too (assuming you already purchased them in the past. If not, I can help on this part too since I have used them all over the years). Because women are very skilled at trying to maipulate a man to give in or change his principles, once they “think” they got you. This is why I added the “Salt & Pepper” to my RMS system: the salt & pepper provide the Stoic, Alphamale and Biz like structure needed to make these relationships last long-term and to also make sure that YOU are getting what you are paying for, or more.

Coming from the Marketing industry, I knew that the majority was usually wrong (YouTube video) and how to analysis multiple opposing ideas at once (Book: The Opposable Mind), which most people cannot do, I learned. This allowed me to analysis this idea in an objective, non-biased, non-emotional way versus acting like the typical narrow-minded normie of today, who probably listens to music like “Cool Kids”.

You can spot these types by how they are usually blurting out words like: “cuck”, “incel” or “simp” like Beavis & Buthead with Tourette syndrome, usually having no idea what the definitions of those words are. They can’t read a post longer than 10 words without getting triggered and displaying some selective emotional drama filled outrage. Another way to spot these types are watching how inconsistent they are with their idols versus real life.

For example, they may praise or laugh or not care that James Bond, Tony Stark, Leonardo DiCaprio, Courtney Love or Lil’ Wayne live a non-monogamous or poly playa vibe lifestyle. But then if an average Joe like you or me is considering it, suddenly they will label you a “cuck” or “simp” or some other simpleton emotional, uneducated, & childish name-calling ensues. Most people simply have a hard time connecting these dots, for whatever reason, so name-calling is usually just the easier way out versus them confronting their inconsistencies, double standards or pro elitist mind set. And lets be honest, much of this are REALLY LARGE PILLS TO SWALLOW.

Another example of this inability of society to connect dots, was an ex-GF saying the Bachelor TV show dude was pretty cool and in love with 2 women (and they were in love with him too she said), any of which he could marry that night. I had remembered how, when we first met, she said I was “single” even if I was dating or in relationships with more than 1 woman. And my relationships were considered “just fucking” or being a player, in her mind. So, I asked her if the Bachelor dude was single too. Her reply: “No way, he is in love with 2 women and might be engaged tonight, so how could he be single, Kurt?”

Most men (people) have tunnel vision (mental myopia) and think inside a tiny box on most issues, which seems like a bad thing on the surface, but technically this gives you an advantage. This means if you are one of the few that deploy something different or unique in your life, you have higher odds of standing out in women’s minds.

This tunnel vision is akin to a mediocre racecar driver who looks in their rearview mirror, sees their competition and is so far behind, that they think they are first 🙄

Okay, enough on that issue for now. Now, let’s go over these core elements so you understand what I am trying to say, and so you can see the “blind spot” or “sweet spot” that I discovered while testing many of these dating models the past 3.5 years while with hundreds of latina’s in Colombia:

1. Sigma/Alpha Male Systems (Red Pill, PUA, etc.):

Push heavy frame control, non-neediness, emotional detachment.
Preach “never pay a woman” because it’s framed as weak, simping, or “beta behavior.”
Value high status, abundance, and being the prize.
Typically recommend not committing financially unless it’s a wife who earned it through submission, loyalty, etc.

✅ Pros: Strong boundaries, masculinity, mental game.
❌ Cons: Unrealistic expectations (many men don’t have 20 women chasing them), and no clear tools for dealing with women who are already transactional by default (e.g., in Latin America, Eastern Europe, etc.).

2. Sugar Daddy / Arrangement Culture (Seeking.com, etc.):

Based on financial incentive for companionship, intimacy, or lifestyle.
Focused on access, not power.
The man often loses frame because the woman is treated like a “princess” for showing up.

✅ Pros: High convenience, direct expectations, no games.
❌ Cons: Men often pay too much and get very little compliance because they try to impress instead of lead.

🚨 The Missing Link: Sigma + Arrangement = Power + Performance

There is no dominant system right now that combines:

The financial efficiency and clarity of a Sugar Daddy deal,
With the structure, dominance, and emotional control of the Sigma Frame.

Most dating coaches either:

Laugh at sugar daddies (saying they’re weak),simping or betas or
Avoid talking about money and structure altogether (too taboo or risky).

👇

**That’s why my system—’The Sugar, Salt & Pepper Daddy Relationship Management System™—is so valuable.**

It acknowledges:

That women already want a transactional setup, usually, regardless of country
But that most men don’t know how to use that to maintain Sigma status,
And that it’s totally possible to pay and still lead—if the rules, delivery, and tone are built around power, not permission
That most traditional marriages are essentially a Sugar Daddy / Baby arrangement FOR HER ONLY but we just stick makeup on the pig per se and called it marriage so that it sounds more romantic and disney

💥 Positioning Is Uniquely Powerful

Imagine being able to turn the tables on women and use it to your advantage:

“Yes, I’m fine with transactional relationships…actually I prefer it that way over a BF or Husband, yuk. But I’ll run it like a business, not like a fantasy, ok baby.”

That flips the entire modern dating dynamic upside-down, especially in:

High-inflation Western countries where women want results, not promises.
Developing countries where most relationships are already financially fueled.
Marriage or LTR situations where men want structure, not servitude.

In the movie Jack Reacher (Tom Cruse), he tells this cute lady at his table who invited him to her car for sex: “I can’t afford you, Sandy”

Angrily, Sandy replies: “you asshole…. I’m NOT a Hooker!”

Reacher replies: “…then I REALLY can’t afford you, Sandy!”

🔑 Why It’s So Effective

Because reverse sugar daddy game doesn’t rely on:

Having a six-pack.
Having 50 matches a week.
Gaming emotions or pretending to love her.
Driving a Lambo

It’s based on:

Predictable value flow (her to you, and vice versa).
Controlled access.
Emotional detachment with sexual and domestic returns.

And women often fall harder (in love) in this system because they:

Feel emotionally “locked out,” which creates desire.
Know they’re earning what they get (which increases respect).
Are in a system with rules—which they secretly crave.

“Every alpha male says don’t pay for it.
Every sugar daddy says pay for everything.
I say pay for performance—under contract, with consequences.”
– Kurt Timsah

Let’s look at the 3 elements: Sugar, Salt & Pepper of this “daddy” RMS….

**💡 Where Does ‘The Sugar, Salt & Pepper Relationship Management System™’ fit, daddy?**

It’s a hybrid system, but leans heavily Sigma + Alpha:

Like a Sigma, you don’t need to be emotionally available, social, or attention-seeking.
Like an Alpha, you still lead—financially, emotionally, and structurally.

👉But unlike either, you blend financial leverage with emotional detachment and strategic boundaries—something almost no other system does.

This system in Sigma energy first, which reflects that lone wolf mindset:

Detached but in control
Outside the social matrix
Silent dominance
Strategic, emotionless intimacy

Built around the Sigma archetype, with a mix of cold power, mystery, and “don’t need you, but you’re lucky if I allow you” vibes.

🧂 What It Could Represent:

Sugar = The money. The allowance. The carrot.
Salt = The boundaries. The cold frame. No emotional access. No Birthday presents.(unless you want to but it should not be expected)
Pepper = The spice. The control. The dominance. The massages. The Cooking. The tasks that YOU required from her other than sex.

It’s like you’re saying:

“Yeah, I pay. But not how you think I pay.”
“I’m not just a Sugar Daddy—I’m Salt when she’s out of line and Pepper when it’s time to assert power.”

🧠 Positioning Angle (Sigma-Style Humor + Power):

You’re not trying to be slick like a PUA.
You’re not playing victim like a beta.
You’re just giving women exactly what they want—but on a plate of rules and accountability.

“I’ll feed you sugar. I’ll salt you when you act out. And I’ll pepper the whole thing with power you’ll never fully touch.” vibe.

🔺 The Triangle of Total Control™

Think of this like the food pyramid for high-value men—except instead of grains and veggies, you’re dishing out structure, dominance, and detachment.

Each side of the triangle represents a non-negotiable principle of your system:

🍭 1. Sugar = Provision With Parameters

“Yeah, she gets paid—but it’s not a blank check. It’s a structured investment.”

Monthly allowance only
No access to your accounts, cards, or finances
No gifts unless earned
Provision is performance-based
She’s not your queen—you’re her sponsor, strategist, and selector

This is where traditional sugar daddy energy ends and Alpha Provision begins.
You give—but only with Terms & Submission™.

🧂 2. Salt = Boundaries & Emotional Detachment

“Sugar without salt is sweet… and stupid.”

Emotional availability is limited—by design
No over-texting, no emotional labor
No boyfriend behaviors required (but you can if YOU want, just not expected or required)
No simping allowed
Cold contracts > warm intentions
No birthday gifts or any gifts if you don’t want to
[ Insert here whatever “boyfriend behaviors” that you hate and want to avoid ]
- For example, I will never hold a woman’s purse for her or
- Put my toilet seat down
- Watch any type of movie that I hate, just to be sweet or romantic
- Take selfies of ONLY her while on trips or be relegated to photo duty like a beta slave

Salt is what keeps the frame strong. It’s the difference between being a Spice Boss™… and being a wallet with feelings.

🌶️ 3. Pepper = Power, Control & Sexual Strategy

“You want to keep her obsessed? Give her just enough spice to crave more.”

Ethical non-monogamy is the default
She knows she doesn’t own you
You’re free to have others—she agreed to that
Dominance isn’t loud, it’s implied
Sexual tension stays high because access stays low

Pepper is the dark psychology/reverse psychology part of the system. You don’t give it all. You leave the craving.

🧸 “Beta Monogamy” – For Guys Who Like Cuddles and Tears

“Yes, you can run this system monogamously… if you want to soften the edge and cuddle after arguments. No judgment (okay, maybe a little).”

Even monogamous men can benefit from:

Monthly allowance + emotional boundaries
Structure over chaos
Compliance-based tasks or behaviors YOU want too (her to cook or massages etc)
Paying = No Simping required

** CAUTION ** It is my view that monogamy is a “mutually controlling relationship of conditional love” at its core, which is why it has such a high failure rate today. In the USA, women terminate about ⅔ of all relationships. Dating ones in about 2 years and marriages in 7 years.

Additionally, I believe that monogamy today, is more disney & delusional than it was just 20 years ago even. Today, most women, tend to put lusts, desires & temptations, on the same level as sins or cheating, when it comes to romantic relationships, making it even harder to accomplish them long-term. Some examples of this are:

When I was married, my wife then accused me of virtually cheating on her after she caught me watching porn. This then made it much easier to cheat for real, since I was already labelled a cheater. Her Disney mindset was putting the lust on the same level as the sin, which is what many people do today or the past 20 years or so. “Old School monogamy, pre-2000, did not do this as much.
An Ex-GF, whom I was monogamous with for over a year and whom I had told that I have a hard time with monogamy but would try it with her because I loved her. One day she asked me to be honest and if I wanted to have sex with other women? I told her, “sure…..why?” She got upset and teary-eyed and ran out and said it was over. If this was 20-30 years ago, most women might have laughed and said I can look all I want, but no touching. But in today’s modern, delusional and disney mindset, it was if I had essentially cheated on her. Or, it was treated the same as IF I had cheated. Once again, the lust was treated the same as the sin.
- now, in a weird way, I owe her a thank you because this allowed me to turn my then 10-day trip to Medellín, Colombia, into a total life re-design, spending the next 3.5 years living abroad and enjoying latina women galore! I have zero bad to say about this ex GF, as she was amazing, and we had some great memories together that I will never forget.

Americans (or westerners mostly, not foreign women as much), for whatever reason, only do this unrealistic expectations deal with relationships, not other areas of life. For example, if a woman was being tempted of having an abortion, would anyone label her an abortionist or a murderer yet? Nope. She did not do the act yet.

Or say I was being tempted and lusting about robbing a bank. Would society label me a Bank Robber or treat me as if I had already robbed the bank? Nope.

It’s ONLY in relationships in today’s hyper delusional world that we find ourselves, with a majority of women putting Lusts (flirting, thoughts, desires) on the same level as sins (real cheating). Don’t get me wrong – I think most women do this subconsciously without a single thought as to if her actions make logical sense. It’s 100% emotion based today. Logic has 0 to do with any of it.

The problem with putting lusts & temptations on the same level as the sin, is that it:

does not give incentive to the other partner to not comment the real sin
devalues the sin and puts actions on same level as thoughts or temptations
Is occurring at the same time the technology boom is happening, which makes flirting and communicating much easier to do
Is too hard for most people that are not Priests or Saints to accomplish
Encourages your partner to lie to your face

Therefore, since Old School Monogamy (pre 2000s) has been morphed into what I now call “Lustogmay” today, making it 1000x harder to accomplish with any realistic odds, I do not recommend men to attempt Monogamy / Lustogamy anymore, unless you prefer short-term relationships, maybe.(sarcasm). And if you are the delusional type that assumes Monogamy = Love, you might wanna set down for this next one.

Just look at how many American women watch The Bachelor TV show, where a dude was in love w/ 2 women and they in love with him too. It’s a Poly dating show in which couple are falling in love without being Monogamous! Typically, monogamy is what women want AFTER she falls in love, not before.

Monogamy does NOT = love or falling in love, guys! Monogamy is what happens AFTER both fall in love. Most people fall in love during the Poly phase or the Non-monogamous phase, which is the first 1-3 months typically. Then, they get feelers and decide to become monogamous, which is just a technical word for “mutually controlling relationship of conditional love”. Another hard pill to swallow and let sink in real good.

Additionally, since the average monogmous relationship in USA average 17 – 24 months today (and 70% are terminiated by the woman), this means that serious relationships are SHORT-TERM relationships, NOT long-term relationships.

This means that Monogamy does not support: 1) Loving relationships or 2) Long-term relationships!

Ok, now that I illustrated and beat into your head that a) Monogamy = does not equal loving relationships and b) Lustogamy does not equal long-term relationships, lets change courses for a second so you see why this is so important to remember…

🔁 Concepts & Cornerstone of the System:

Performance Contract – Her affection is earned, not assumed.
Peace-for-Pay Protocol – You’re not paying for sex. You’re paying for silence, peace, and submission.
The Affection Ledger – You audit her energy and respond accordingly.
No Access Relationship – No financial access. No emotional overreach. Only controlled access.

Triangle Description:

Each point represents one core principle:
- Sugar: Monthly financial support, but only under rules. No direct access to bank accounts, gifts, or extra perks unless earned.
- Salt: Emotional detachment, strong frame, and clearly defined boundaries. No boyfriend behavior, no simping.
- Pepper: Sexual dominance, ethical non-monogamy, mystery, dark psychology. Access is controlled. Power is implied.
The triangle shape symbolizes balance of control. Too much sugar? You get used. Too much salt? You lose connection. Too much pepper? You risk chaos. The sweet spot is structure.

“Paying for Peace, not just Sex”

Some areas I can help you with, include:

How to structure monthly allowance rules (the right way)
Why Ethical Non-Monogamy gives you more power (if you’re brave enough)
- One could also structure it so that she is monogamous to you, but you not her, since you are paying for your freedom too, not just sex.
How to maintain Sigma frame even if you’re married
The #1 mistake men make when they “pay for peace” (and how to avoid it)
How to discipline or anti-reward her if she does not hold up her part of the arrangement on a particular week or month (this one requires some Stoic training & practice with, which I can help with)

✅ Because Paying Up Front is the Smartest Move!

🎯 Over 10,000 men are now living The Anti-Boyfriend Lifestyle
💼 Based on Sigma psychology, transactional clarity, and emotional ROI
🧊 Built for modern men who want women—without the baggage

This isn’t pickup. It’s not romance.
It’s the ‘Sugar, Salt & Pepper Daddy’™ Framework—and it works.
If you’re done playing defense, it’s time to flip the script.

🚫 Who This Dating & Relationship Management System is NOT for?

❌ 1. Hopeless Romantics Looking for a Disney Ending

If you still believe “love conquers all” and that your soulmate is out there waiting with a scented candle and zero expectations… this ain’t for you.

❌ 2. Guys Who Think Simping Is a Strategy

If you believe buying her flowers after she ghosts you is a power move, this will hurt your feelings.

❌ 3. Emotionally Fragile Men Who Want to Be “Chosen”

If you’re just trying to be the “good guy” she finally sees value in—go cry on Reddit, not here.

❌ 4. Men Who Need Female Validation to Function

If her approval fuels your self-worth, you’ll never run the frame.

❌ 5. People Offended by Structure or Power Dynamics

If you think financial leadership, sexual dominance, and emotional detachment are “toxic,” feel free to keep worshiping your therapist and blaming men.

❌ 6. Men Who Are Afraid to Say ‘No’

This system requires boundaries. If you can’t say “No,” you’ll get played—and then blame the game.

❌ 7. White Knights and “Pick Me” Men

If your goal is to prove to women that you’re not like other guys, this system will make your cape catch fire.

❌ 8. Hardcore Monogamists Who Think Lust Is Evil

If you believe desiring other women makes you a bad partner, you’re not ready for this frame.

❌ 9. Beta Enforcers

If you’re the kind of guy who polices other men’s behavior to impress women—you’re not just not ready, you’re part of the problem.

❌ 10. Anyone Who Thinks Relationships Are About “Equality”

This is a performance-based system. You lead. She follows. Equality sounds nice—but structure wins.

❌ 11. Men Who Think “Paying = Simping” No Matter What

If your brain automatically labels any man who provides financially as a “beta,” you’re still stuck in broke boy energy.

Because here’s the truth:

A simp pays for nothing and gives everything
A beta pays for attention and chases approval
A Sugar, Salt & Pepper Daddy™ pays with structure, terms, and full control

You’re not paying for sex—you’re paying for peace, performance, and predictability. You’re paying to avoid simping, not to indulge it.

“Billionaires buy time. Kings broker alliances. Only broke men think control isn’t worth investing in.”

This system isn’t about tricking women—it’s about out-framing them and being frank with yourself and her, that most relationships ultimately come down to “Biz” in the end. So, why not be 100% about “Biz” from the very start, then?

So if your masculinity is so fragile that a man setting financial boundaries makes you feel weak… you might need a different kind of coach.

👇 Want Help Deploying This System in Your Own Life?

Most men don’t fail because the idea is bad—they fail because the implementation is weak.

On a 1-on-1 call, I’ll help you:

Customize the Sugar, Salt & Pepper Framework to your life & wants
Rebuild your frame from the inside out
Exit or convert your Lustogamy relationships without burning bridges
How to write a dating app profile that hints at this relationship model using humor
Set up a “Peace-for-Pay Protocol” she’ll actually agree to

Its simply $197 per hour via Google Meet coaching on how to implement this in your life to find a SSPB (sugar, salt, pepper baby), multiple SSPBs, or a SSPB wife.

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Examples of issues handled on Coaching calls:

Jeremy learned that the more a man spends on Wedding rings, the faster he may get divorced
Robert learned how to negosiate the “Salt & Pepper” into his arrangements with women so that when she does not hold up her end of the deal, it gets enforced properly without drama
Juan learned how to implement the SSPD RMS for International Dating with foreign women, saving a ton of money
Adam learned he can get 30x more “pre-dates” (over coffee/drink) over traditional dating, by screening SSPBs faster because his frame was “all biz” versus “dressing to impress”